Most people assume that once the difficult decision to seek a divorce in the first place has been made, the hardest and most important decision has been handled, and all that is left is to battle it out with their spouse and survive the experience. While the actual decision to end a marriage may be the most difficult one to make, with the biggest impact, it is by far not the last decision that will have to be made. One of the most important decisions will be whether or not to seek out a divorce mediator in Pleasant Hill California in order to have a mediated – as opposed to litigated – divorce.
How can you decide if you are going to benefit from mediation? There are a few questions you can ask yourself that will clarify the situation for you.
Before engaging a divorce mediator, ask yourself the following:
- Are you motivated to be civil and cooperative, and to negotiate in a positive way?
- Do you feel that you and your spouse have sufficient goodwill to not only negotiate a solution, but to trust each other to follow agreements?
- Do you value privacy and wish to keep as many people away from the details as possible?
- Are you comfortable disclosing your finances and other personal information not only to your spouse, but to the mediator?
- Are you capable of disagreeing with your spouse without resorting to negativity?
If you can answer “yes” to these questions, you may be capable of engaging in an effective mediation, saving yourself time, money, and emotional distress. Any “no” answers should cause you to reconsider whether you are ready for the mediation process at all.